Watching The Water Run

For the last few days, I have felt strange. And no, it has nothing do with the 35 homemade cinnamon cookies (Nonna’s recipe) I’ve had since Tuesday morning. Those things are a delight. So if you don’t mind, I’m just going to sit at my laptop and play the keyboard like a piano.

Relax about the cookies, though. They’re small.

The other night, I was reading a book while sitting in a rocking chair that is older than I am. It’s something I do before blogging and/or sleeping. But if I’m being honest, I only read one chapter at a time and sometimes go 5-7 days without opening the book.

So, yeah. Sign me up for your book club, as long as you meet once a year and have catering.

Anyways, I finished the chapter and closed the book. And then I just sat there, paralyzed. It was as if someone took over my body and wouldn’t let me move, blink, or twirl my arms like a helicopter.

Eventually, my head was able to move and I just looked around my room and wondered where the time had gone and how moments in my life felt like they weren’t even mine anymore.

I felt like I was in a stranger’s bedroom, staring at their trophies, their pictures, and their collection of books and magazines from 2006. I felt separated from my possessions and accomplishments, as if none of them mattered anymore.

I don’t know how long I sat there before standing up to go to the washroom. When I turned on the sink, I just stood there watching the water run. It took me a few seconds to realize, “Hey, that water goes on your hands”.

My stream of consciousness was lost in the stream of water.

I don’t really live within the confines of “time” anymore.

It’s either the weekend, or it’s a weekday. I’m awake, or I’m asleep. It’s time to eat, or it isn’t. The sporting event has started, or it hasn’t.

There is no 10:23am. There is no 3:31pm. There is no 9:47pm. There is no 2:06am.

Those are just temporary numbers on a clock that are gone before we even realize they were there.

And maybe that’s why, as I looked around my room, I felt disconnected from myself. Because when I do the math in my head, I realize how many years have passed since certain events occurred.

I can’t help but imagine the person I was back then and who I surrounded myself with, and how the world was. So when I compare it to the present day, I find myself wishing I was still living in the past – inside those photographs and trophies – because it seemed so much better.

For those of you who were wondering whatever became of me watching The Office, I’m happy to report that I finished all nine seasons a couple of weeks ago, and actually loved it. Trust me, I’m more surprised than you are.

On the last episode of the series, there was a line that really hit me. I had heard and seen it before, but it got to me this time around.

“I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good old days before you’ve actually left them.”

Sometimes I wonder if I’ve already lived my best and happiest years; if my life peaked too soon. I know, it’s absolutely ludicirous for me to say that as a 25-year-old, and a lot of you are probably reading this and dying to be in my shoes.

Or maybe you’ve pulled out a wooden spoon and put my name on it.

Here’s one of the things I think about when I think of “the good old days”.

The first time I was ever really honest on this blog was in September 2013, when I wrote about missing school. Even then, it wasn’t “school” that I truly missed. It was the every day life and the people I was with.

In the four years since I graduated, I’ve only been back on campus, twice. There are many reasons for that – geographical proximity being the main one.

But another one is, I just want to leave the memories alone. I don’t want to go back and go through the whole, “Oh, this is where this happened. And this is where I dropped my pasta on the sidewalk. And this is where I met so and so.”

I just want to leave it alone because it’ll never be what it was, and I don’t want to tarnish the memories I have.

That place was home. I don’t want to be a visitor inside my own house. Not now, at least.

Don’t feel sorry for me, or think that I’m dwelling on the past. I came to terms with graduating, a long time ago. This was merely an example.

When I think of the best version of myself, and the best time of my life, I think of those four years at school. It set the bar so high that I’m afraid I’ll never reach that level again.

And the same goes for other times in my life that I can classify as “the good old days”.

So when I think about the present and future, everything just feels “meh” in comparison.

Maybe it’s because I don’t know what my purpose in life is yet, or how I’m supposed to make a living off of it.

Maybe my purpose in life is to make people laugh, while trying to figure out who makes me laugh. That feels a bit empty though, doesn’t it?

It bothers me sometimes, knowing that we can be defined, so simply, by a job title, rather than who we are as a person.

We give labels to everyone. This is (insert name) and they are a (insert occupation).

That’s all people want to know. “What do you do?” or “What do you do in your spare time?”

What the hell is spare time? I didn’t know we got any.

These questions started back when we were a kid and they asked us to write down who/where we wanted to be in ten years. Everyone always gave the most idealistic answer.

No one wrote, “I want to be lost and confused. In my spare time, I want to dip crackers into peanut butter.”

We couldn’t write that. We needed to be somebody. We needed to have a title. Something to put after our name.

I mean, I’ve been blogging for three and a half years. You, your dog, the mailman, and the guy messing up orders in the McDonald’s Drive-Thru would call me a “writer.”

I hesitate to call myself a writer.

I’ll be honest with you and myself, I’ve pumped out some incredible content on this blog since 2013, whether people have realized it or not. So if I wanted to call myself a “writer”, I would be more than justified.

Yet I don’t. Because it doesn’t make me feel any better than saying, “I’m Paul and I have a blog.”

Little Larry – who picks his nose at snack time – in the Grade 4 classroom ten minutes away, can call himself a writer. I’m sure he writes things.

My point being, anyone can be a writer. But no one can be Paul (insert my last name here), except me.

Side Story: Sometimes I’ll see reporters or writers get cute with their Twitter bio and call themselves a, “Storyteller.” If I’m honest, that makes me sick. 

You know what my Twitter bio says? “Used to like relish”. 

We’re all storytellers. Some might fall under the “gossiper” umbrella, but they’re storytellers nonetheless. 

Before I get too far off track, I want to circle back and mention one last thing.

Last week, I got an email from a person at WordPress asking me for my 2017 Digital Diet, which would be shared on WordPress Discover. If you read my blog post yesterday, you know what I’m talking about.

I had been featured three times before, by WordPress, and to me, this way my fourth time. Yet, I lacked the same excitement that I had the first three times. (Ask Barb!) Don’t get me wrong, I’m honoured they asked me, and for a good 5 – 10 minutes, I was freaking out.

But after that wore off, I just wanted to tell someone about it. You know, share my excitement. I quickly realized that I didn’t know who to tell.

In the past, I knew exactly who to tell first. On top of that, I would’ve posted about it on Facebook; I didn’t say a word on Facebook this time.

I didn’t know who to text or message online. Eventually I told some blogger friends because I figured they’d understand more than my friends who don’t blog. In the end, I only told one non-blogger friend about being “featured”.

My post yesterday – I wasn’t even sure I was going to do it. I convinced myself that it wasn’t really important, but I shared it with you because I had nothing else to write about and, honestly, I love waking up to a phone that’s exploding with email notifications. It makes me feel somewhat important.

Sad, right?

Go back and read through the subtle humour in my post yesterday, and you’ll see that I couldn’t wait for it to be over.

What was this post about? I have no clue. Normally, I wrap up these kind of posts with a lesson. I don’t think I have one. Maybe the entire post was a lesson. You decide.

I will say this, though – I realized today that 2008 was nine years ago and that just about made me put down cinnamon cookie #28. At that point, I realized I needed to say something.

These were just words I needed to get out.

Sort of like water from a faucet.

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28 Responses to Watching The Water Run

  1. Quinn says:

    Okay Paul, take a seat. Tell your older, wiser new stranger-friend exactly what you feel is missing from your life that you had five years ago. Acknowledge that in another five years you will look back at this as a minor dip in a bumpy road.

    Or you can get the wooden spoon. It’s up to you.

    Liked by 2 people

    • Paul says:

      What, no snacks? I’m kidding.
      This comment actually made me feel better when I read it. Maybe it was your wisdom, or maybe it was the threat of the spoon. Probably both. Thank you!

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Jess says:

    I have this same paralyzing thing happen to me all the time between the sitting still in silence to watching the water run. You’re not alone. It is a very strange feeling, especially when you click out of it. “I love waking up to a phone that’s exploding with email notifications. It makes me feel somewhat important.” —> I also feel this way at times. I’m trying to get out of that habit though.

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  3. rebbit7 says:

    I enjoyed your reflections, Paul. Especially with the metaphorical use of the water faucet running and how in life, we’re “running out of time” in terms of enjoying ourselves to the fullest. There’s a paradox that time goes by too fast when you’re enjoying it, but goes too slow when we’re suffering. Call that cruel and sadistic, but really, time is a construct that we can choose to let it dictate our lives or us to ignore it and do what we please. Not sure if all of this makes sense to you, since I’m just rambling, but your post did offer some good thoughts on the subject- very much appreciated!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Paul says:

      It’s funny, I thought of the line “running out of time” after I finished writing this but before posting, but didn’t feel like finding a place to put it so I’m glad you said it lol. Your comment made sense, thank you for sharing it!

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  4. thatzimgirl says:

    Ah the mid twenties. I hear you completely and I know you said you had no idea what this post was about. I actually didn’t when I started reading. It when I got to the end I realized I followed your train of thought very easily. The concept of time you touched on is really profound and I think it’s almost a paradox that takes some getting used to. For me. I like to look back at old pictures and read my old journals and be nostalgic but I also have to shake myself sometimes and remember it’s in the past. Appreciating your past and also finding time to “live in the moment today” without jumping to far ahead in future thinking is like the ultimate adult go but I’m not sure anyone does it perfectly. Anyways, I appreciate the thoughts and I feel a little less alone in my confusion and uncertainty regarding who I was and who I am. Glad you wrote about it!

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    • Paul says:

      Paradox seems to be the word of the day; someone else mentioned it in their comment too. You’re right, the key to life is living in the moment. And that’s what I did in all the memories that stand out from the past, but I didn’t realize it at the time. Thank you for commenting! You’re never alone.

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  5. commutingwithkristen says:

    “I just want to leave it alone because it’ll never be what it was, and I don’t want to tarnish the memories I have.” That sentence, wow, did it resonate with me. I feel that way about my alma mater, the house I grew up in, hell sometimes even all of SoCal. They’re such meaningful places that hold such beautiful memories, I’m hesitant to visit them because I’d hate to alter those memories or infuse them with bits of who I am now and how I feel now.

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  6. Barb Knowles says:

    Yes I share in your excitement! And in your non-excitement! Paul’s blog featuring Barb.
    I read this post 3 times, trying to put my finger on it. And came up with melancholy. It’s stream of consciousness yet poetic as well. And searching. You are a writer. You write things that thousands of people want to read.
    And you can call yourself whatever you want. Or not.

    Liked by 1 person

  7. MicheleMariePoetry says:

    “…paralyzed. It was as if someone took over my body and wouldn’t let me move, blink, or twirl my arms like a helicopter…” I thought, ‘He’s either had a stroke, an ADHD moment, or a blackout- from all the sugar in those cookies….
    Thanks for the chuckles, “”Or twirl my arms like a helicopter”‘ TOOO FUNNY!!

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  8. Ariel Lynn says:

    I hope you brought enough of Nonna’s cinnamon cookies to share with everyone! 😉

    Also, – knowing full well my opinion isn’t important (especially compared to yours) – I believe you’re a writer. Or, at the very least, a “blogger,” which is “writes on the Internet.” The latter will soon take over the original definition, but I digress.

    Are your labels all that we are? I don’t think so. They’re merely ways we connect to others & hope they understand us.

    People are recognizing you as a writer, including those running the platform on which you write. So, others are calling you a writer. The question really is, would you like to be a writer? If so… you’ve got a really short transition! 😉

    Congratulations on your WP recognition. They made a great choice in tapping you to write something up.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Paul says:

      “Share”?? What does that even mean?
      You can call me a writer, I won’t mind! Maybe if I hear it enough I’ll call myself one too.
      That’s true, your point about labels.
      Thank you!


      • Ariel Lynn says:

        Hmmm. You must have skipped kindergarten. 😉 But, I’m sad that you won’t share. Especially cookies. The next time I get cookies, you don’t get none! 😛

        Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer.
        Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. All work & no play makes Jack a dull boy.Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer. Paul is a writer.

        Is that enough? XD

        You’re welcome! (Sorry if this pops up twice; WP is being a jerk.)

        Liked by 1 person

      • Paul says:

        Haha it actually popped up 0 times because I just found it in my spam comments. I guess WP didn’t appreciate the repetition. I did, though!

        Liked by 1 person

      • Ariel Lynn says:

        Huh… That explains why the comment never appeared on your page with the “Your comment is awaiting moderation” bit. It went straight to spam. Those dastards!

        Why doesn’t WP want me telling you that you’re a writer?! They’re afraid of your raw writing power. XD

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  9. Myka says:

    Damn Paul (insert last name). You really hit it on the head with a hammer (as Lil Wayne once said – in his documentary. Check it out – it’s hilarious). Anyway, this: What the hell is spare time? I didn’t know we got any – amazing. I think you are a writer, but I like to think of you as Paul with the blog, too. I’m not sure if I took a lesson from this, but what I can say is I love it. I love how raw your words are. How I can relate to a lot of what you say, and the things I can’t relate to, you somehow manage to make me understand. I really liked it. Yeah, no, for sure. (haha).

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  10. Angela says:

    One day you’ll look back on right now as good ol days too! 😉
    Although I hope you still write and eat cinnamon cookies in 10years time 😜

    Liked by 1 person

  11. punknpurls says:

    Found your blog though the Digital Diet post actually..Haha, but glad I stopped by to check it out. As others have stated, I love the rawness of your writing here and I would mirror some of what others have said that there will be a time in the future when this time (or perhaps another time in your future) will be the “good old days,” I think rightfully, as you’re doing, the thing is not to get caught up in it.

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