Who We Are

We are all different. There are things I like that you don’t. The music I listen to may be foreign to you. The way I talk, or the phrases I use, may drive you up the wall of your igloo. My sense of humour might not be your cup of tea, but I don’t drink tea, so that would be the second thing in this sentence we disagree on – the first being my humour.

I’m downright hilarious. Recognize.

Yet despite all of our differences, you keep coming back to my blog to read more. Why? I have a few guesses, but I’m not cocky enough to say that I brighten your day so I’ll just wait for you to tell me that in the comments section, at which point I will try and act surprised. 

I think there is a lot of fear in the world today and a lot of it stems from people, and leaders, being afraid of those who are not like them. Granted, there are some absolutely disgusting and callous people in this world who do strike fear in the rest of us.

But not everyone who is different, should be feared. If I were afraid of everyone that was different than me, I’d have about two friends and no one to have a conversation with because those two friends would be imaginary.

I firmly believe the person I am is just a combination of everyone I’ve ever met, as well as the experiences I’ve had since I entered this world.

Why are many of us so much like our parents, or our siblings? Well, genetics. Also, I’ve spent so many hours of my life, maybe too many, with my family. Just like you probably have. Of course we’re going to be similar.

That being said, my sister and I are from two separate planets sometimes. 

If you’re not from Canada, you might not be familiar with the name, Ron MacLean. He is the host of Hockey Night in Canada. To the Americans reading this, that is our version of Football Night in America except you copied us, and ours is much better.

Anyways, last year I was reading a book he wrote and something he said really stood out to me. I made a note of it in my phone and will share it with you now.

“Life really is about collecting people you like to be around, and when you come across them, you don’t take them for granted. If you want them to remain in your life, you’ve got to make an effort to keep them in your life.”  

I don’t know if I’ve ever read something so accurate before.

That quote always makes me think about the friends I’ve made throughout my life and how a lot of those friendships no longer exist. I don’t say that in a sad context, it’s just the way life goes.

Heck, my best friend in kindergarten – a.k.a the guy I always sat next to on the carpet – was merely just another person in my class by the time we reached Grade 2.

I’ve gone through stretches in my life where it was unimaginable to me that I wouldn’t be close friends with some people forever, and then slowly but surely, we drifted apart.

It’s no one’s fault. Our purpose in each other’s life might have been fulfilled already.

Or some other logical reason.

That’s another thing I believe in – we’re all in someone’s life for a reason. We learn something new from everyone we encounter even if we don’t know what it is.

I remember going away to university for first year and coming back and one of my “home friends” told me I had changed. (Might’ve been Chris. Probably was.). Not for the worse, but I was different. And I knew I was different.

I had been put in a new situation for eight months with people who I had never met before. I learned so much about myself that year and these people were responsible for teaching me most of it.

That’s all life is. A carousel ride that puts us in someone’s life for a certain period of time before moving on to impact someone else’s. But if we’re lucky, we find friends that stick around when the carousel starts moving again.

I have a small cast of friends who I talk to on a regular basis and the best thing about it is the conversations are always so easy. There are some people that I just click with, where we can say absolutely anything and it’ll be okay.

I was in a conversation with a friend last night for about an hour and we probably disagreed on just about everything each other said, but it was fine, and fun, and normal. I think. That’s just the nature of our friendship.

In terms of the blogosphere, I have come across some blogs where, if I didn’t know any better, I’d think that I was the author. It’s crazy for me to see someone think, write, and have the exact same sense of humour as I do, all while being from another country.

Quick Story:

There are friends of mine with which I’m convinced I share a telepathic wavelength. (Not to mention my mother. We’re on the same page all the time). They know what I’m going to do or say, before I do.

A couple of years ago, I was with some friends and one of them asked me and another guy: “Are you two taking the subway?

Without looking at each other, we both said, “Eat fresh” at the exact same time. Never mind answering the question. We both made a reference to Subway’s slogan, instead. It was great.

Almost everyone I meet reminds me of someone else that I’ve already met. It’s not because they’re unoriginal, it’s because they carry with them characteristics that remind me of someone else. So when I’m getting to know a person, that helps me put the initial pieces together.

People are puzzles, y’all. 

There are people in this world we have not met yet, but will have an impact on our life. That is equally intriguing and terrifying to me.

Mainly because I listen to a couple of song lyrics too much that tell me “when you change too much, you lose yourself” and “time is never time at all, you can never ever leave, without leaving a piece of youth”.

Prizes to whoever can name those songs.

If I were to get cheesy and cliche for a moment, I’d say that opposites attract (both in relationships & friendships) because both individuals give each other something they didn’t have before. It’s like making a trade in Monopoly.

You never know who you’re going to meet in this life. You never know when, or how, either. But when people enter your life, you get to decide how long they stay. That may sound incredibly cruel, but we’ve all made that decision before, even if we didn’t realize it.

We are all different, yet exactly the same.

That is who we are.

Most of us, anyway.

About Paul

I think of my blog as an all-you-can-read buffet. There's something for everyone and complimentary mints at the door as you leave.
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35 Responses to Who We Are

  1. sandeept252 says:

    “If I were afraid of everyone that was different than me, I’d have about two friends and no one to have a conversation with because those two friends would be imaginary.”
    This was the best part of this speech, Captain! Superb!! 🙂

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  2. Angela says:

    “If I were afraid of everyone that was different than me, I’d have about two friends and no one to have a conversation with because those two friends would be imaginary.” I agree too this line is everything!!!! Another great post Paul! I for sure keep coming back so that you can brighten my day 🙂

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  3. Talula Teabag says:

    You’re absolutely hilarious! They way you write too, it just flows and it makes for a pleasant read.
    I think that if people around us are all the same, we would be bored, but in my experience we have something or the other in common with the next person. Then again comes the Captain, and I go wow! So, I can be proven wrong 🙂
    Well written, friend.

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    • Paul says:

      Lol thank you for boosting my ego. We would definitely be bored if everyone around us were just like us. We might as well talk to ourselves lol. Thanks for reading!


  4. Jess says:

    I love this post and it reminds me of a movie I watched a few years ago called My Blueberry Nights. I was up abnormally late one night and it was on. I’d never heard of it before and I only watched it that one time, but it was one of those movies that made you think. It’s kind of similar because it shows how each stranger can change something in you whether you realize it or not. I watched a movie the other day and there was a quote I liked, “Have you ever had that feeling when you first meet someone that they are going to play a huge role in your life?” I think you’re absolutely right. Everyone offers something to the table.

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    • Paul says:

      “Everyone offers something to the table.” Wish I had thought of that line, then I could’ve said we are no different than a potluck at work. Everyone brings something in and we avoid some while indulging in others (the chocolate chip cookies). Surprisingly I’ve never heard of that movie but it sounds applicable.

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  5. James says:

    Wise words – differences are definitely a good thing. If I met someone who was exactly like me I’d probably want to punch him in the face after about a minute. And if he was exactly like me he’d feel the same about me so it wouldn’t end well at all.

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  6. Barb Knowles says:

    Do you get tired of me telling you how wonderful you are? I’ll take that as a no. I love that you have written about how we are who we are and that is fluid. I believe people evolve and devolve depending not only on genes, but on influences and interactions with other people and decisions we make. And so, one way or another, we change.
    “Our purpose in each other’s life might have been fulfilled already.” My favorite line…..bittersweet.

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  7. Hira says:

    I should be more observant …This never happens to me “Almost everyone I meet reminds me of someone else that I’ve already met.” No one reminds me of you, because no one can match your humor and philosophy 🙂

    Great writing, fluid, conversational and funny!

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  8. Squid says:

    This was brilliant and I’m gonna share it with all my friends! You’re welcome. 🙂 Thanks for brightening my day! (You can forget trying to be surprised, I’ve said this like 14 times)

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  9. sportsattitudes says:

    Just after the New Year a guy I went to college with a lifetime ago reached out to me to say hello and see what I was up to. We exchanged some e-mails and plan on keeping in touch. It was interesting to hear he, like me, hadn’t kept in contact with our other college buddies. Sometimes, after years and friends go by the wayside you can trick yourself into thinking “it must be me.” In fact many of us simply ride that carousel you mentioned and “shed” friends only to meet new ones. Indeed if you are lucky enough – and put the effort into it – some stay on for the whole ride. (Do I get any extra Bachelor Fantasy Game points for being familiar with Hockey Night In Canada as well as Ron?…We did copy it and yes, you do it better…)

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    • Paul says:

      That’s really cool to hear. I don’t think people ever forget those they were friends with, even after they grow apart. Sometimes it’s just hard to be the first one to reach out because you don’t know what the response will be.
      And yes, you get two roses added to your fantasy total this week!

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  10. Myka says:

    Two things. Ok maybe three:
    One: Everyone is so upbeat & happy and agreeing with you and all I want to say is…this reminds me of that quote “Do you ever meet someone for the first time and want to buy them a toaster for their bathtub?” haha. I don’t know why, but it’s the first thing I thought of. (not about you, of course LOL).
    Two: You’re a great writer. & you’re so insightful. it’s refreshing.
    Three: “but we’ve all made that decision before, even if we didn’t realize it.” I think this is the best. Sometimes, most of the time, we don’t realize that we have pushed someone away until they’re already gone.

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    • Paul says:

      One: If there’s one thing I like, it’s when my readers plot my demise and tell me about it…….
      Two: Still thinking about morbid comment #1
      Three: Very true


  11. gabriellemgillispie says:

    This is so so beautifully written! All of your posts are wonderful, but this might be my favorite so far

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  12. I adore this post Paul. I think I read the quote over and over and over again and then thought about posting it on social media. THEN I thought about your digital diet post and decided I would just keep it in my brain and maybe speak it to someone IRL (in real life). Thanks for making me a better human, whether it was on accident or on purpose haha!

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  13.  “We learn something new from everyone we encounter even if we don’t know what it is” this is something I have been slowly coming to terms with. Understanding this is the basis for moving on from those who break our hearts. In my opinion anyways.

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